tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post2454732841438305425..comments2023-04-06T02:30:06.988-07:00Comments on Torrent of Consciousness: Let's Be HonestMelanie Boxallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-8423156316291707092014-05-16T08:40:01.559-07:002014-05-16T08:40:01.559-07:00Unfortunately television is a fake world where wom...Unfortunately television is a fake world where women are supposed to be just so. They'd choose my clothes, they'd "fix" my hair, they'd slather me in make-up. Fuck that shit. I write because I can be me. But my boys are trying to get me to do vlogs because apparently I'm funnier live. So you never know. Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-88755629248633934902014-05-13T09:55:13.938-07:002014-05-13T09:55:13.938-07:00I can tiptoe around issues easily although I don&#...I can tiptoe around issues easily although I don't like to do so - my mother always said that one must have a gift of gab to be able to protect oneself. I've also known people who were much more sensitive than I about taking criticism of any sort.<br /><br />Years ago when a girlfriend asked my opinion of her fiancé-to-be I gave it in complete candour because he really was a slime-ball who had seduced other women (including myself). Blinded by her (supposed) love and jealousy she gave me a verbal beat-down which caused me to just throw up my hands in disgust and walk away.<br />Sailorchronoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15509873623406533055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-39152043816787578702014-05-12T22:49:28.392-07:002014-05-12T22:49:28.392-07:00I don`t get this. The person ASKS? And then is off...I don`t get this. The person ASKS? And then is offended if an honest opinion is given? Sigh. Sign them up for de-sensitivity training.Ien in the Kootenayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-60065591352302171802014-05-12T17:46:54.811-07:002014-05-12T17:46:54.811-07:00I've learned to go with the line, "It'...I've learned to go with the line, "It's not my taste, but if you like it, go with it." If the person cannot figure out whether they like how it looks, it's not my place to say. Otherwise, I'm honest and say what's good and bad about it. They choice is always theirs to make. ~ Blessings! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-12642475734477573922014-05-12T16:19:49.266-07:002014-05-12T16:19:49.266-07:00Frankly I think it is a self esteem issue. I do no...Frankly I think it is a self esteem issue. I do not seek out opinions. When I buy something or wear something I buy it or wear it because I like it. The approval of others is not required nor desired. Unsolicited negativity can be ignored but I think it rude to offer up a negative opinion. It is one of those if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all. However, for those who do ask for an opinion I can only assume an honest opinion is actually requested. I am baffled and confused by those who are looking for affirmation. I have come to learn however, that is what people usually want when they seek opinions.<br />NorthoftheLightshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13377813632018313640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-79104879637562769442014-05-12T10:31:57.739-07:002014-05-12T10:31:57.739-07:00Sometimes I read your blogs and think "Why is...Sometimes I read your blogs and think "Why is she not on television already"?<br /><br />But of course, that would be a waste of material. The people who appreciate it read.<br />Kittybritonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14220277401017282618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-20239678111237320232014-05-12T07:31:06.926-07:002014-05-12T07:31:06.926-07:00Good points all of them. I don't really have a...Good points all of them. I don't really have a problem with telling it like it is, when it comes to clothes, I am not a fashion guru, my closet staples are t-shirts, sweatshirts and jeans, but I still know what looks good and what doesn't especially when it comes to body type; the fit is the main goal. The best route to avoid hurting someone's feelings, when they are seeking your opinion, is to suggest that they give themselves more than one choice, then if you must choose, go with the best out of two or three. If you are not asked for your opinion, keep your mouth shut.<br /><br />I have learned a lot in having a daughter, I have to be honest I hate shopping with her! As a parent I suggest guidelines for her body type, for example, no horizontal stripes (the broad look broader), no boob crack (school appropriate), can you breathe and move?, and white makes everyone look bigger than they are. We go around and around sometimes, but I would rather have the argument than her closet full of inappropriate and ill fitting clothing that she never wears.<br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05307847605370978725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-4302568784696519562014-05-12T06:44:51.869-07:002014-05-12T06:44:51.869-07:00I try to make some humorous diversion that leaves ...I try to make some humorous diversion that leaves them unsure whether it was a complement or criticism. ... let them decide.Berthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00921378387416570622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-47712642220095089712014-05-12T06:13:24.875-07:002014-05-12T06:13:24.875-07:00Oh do you think so? I have always thought "in...Oh do you think so? I have always thought "interesting" was a synonym for "WTF?" LOLMelanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-17493877996168059922014-05-12T06:12:02.124-07:002014-05-12T06:12:02.124-07:00I usually fall back on "interesting choice&qu...I usually fall back on "interesting choice" as an answer. If they ask for an explanation of my answer, I will say that I find it fascinating the diversity of human nature and the choice of individuals. That usually stifles the need for a more in depth answer and preserves the feelings of the individual.Rylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08721789678222139438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-35935647066971277782014-05-12T05:14:55.677-07:002014-05-12T05:14:55.677-07:00You are absolutely correct, but why does my imagin...You are absolutely correct, but why does my imagination go on vacation at those times? I look like a fish. Mouth opens, closes, nothing comes out.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-47433946321721874432014-05-12T05:13:08.370-07:002014-05-12T05:13:08.370-07:00We understand that we are dealing with a heavy dut...We understand that we are dealing with a heavy duty inferiority complex and that honesty is not what they are requesting. They are seeking validation and the complex is so large that everything about them is a request for that validation as a worthy human being. It is hard to understand when you don't suffer from this condition but in order to be human and compassionate, we have to try. Yes, even if it means a white lie. There's nothing to be gained hurting or damaging an already injured/damaged psyche. They won't learn to have more confidence, the truth will only cause more pain. It doesn't mean you need wax poetic about something ghastly - just a simple compliment on...oh..I don't know - the buttons? Maybe the fabric? With some imagination and ingenuity, something positive can be found. Our own opinion is only important to ourselves anyway. Nobody asks for a compliment if they don't, for some reason, NEED it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-37451997892669041512014-05-12T05:01:59.390-07:002014-05-12T05:01:59.390-07:00I don't understand why sensitive people SEEK O...I don't understand why sensitive people SEEK OUT opinions. If an unsolicited opinion hurts their feelings, then I blame the critic. That was uncalled for. But they ask, and they persist in asking. What are we supposed to do?Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-71154154124200016462014-05-12T04:59:15.930-07:002014-05-12T04:59:15.930-07:00I am not good at tiptoeing around feelings either....I am not good at tiptoeing around feelings either.wantonbanterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16353930730534950929noreply@blogger.com