tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post5959833615196820820..comments2023-04-06T02:30:06.988-07:00Comments on Torrent of Consciousness: Meeting HalfwayMelanie Boxallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-69148178651659483072013-10-01T10:28:41.060-07:002013-10-01T10:28:41.060-07:00The "too old to change" doesn't work...The "too old to change" doesn't work on me either, because those people have had plenty of time to change, they just chose not to.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-41878973024714114262013-10-01T10:09:46.922-07:002013-10-01T10:09:46.922-07:00I want to add something to this, something that dr...I want to add something to this, something that drives me insane; people who claim, "I'm too old to change!" BULL PADDIES!!! If an attitude needs to be changed because it is wrong, then "I'm too old" is a supreme cop-out. <br /><br />Debate and the intelligent exchange of ideas is a skill. It is a learned skill, like anything else. The more we practice, the better we are able to manage. Debating at home can be a great way to learn how to agree to disagree but when someone crosses the line and the debate is lost in some sort of childish mind game, then the learning ceases and the culprit comes off looking like a jerk. A lesson to those watching; don't want to look like a jerk? Don't behave like so and so, have coherent points with back up. <br /><br />The supper table is sacrosanct to me as well. I spent a childhood where dinner could be, (due to alcohol abuse) a horrible ordeal and I swore that dinners would never be that way in my home. When anyone was out of line, they were asked, respectfully, to leave the table until such a time as they could behave according to my rules. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-27016825469920151152013-10-01T09:09:22.729-07:002013-10-01T09:09:22.729-07:00Hierachy is real. I will take the "queen"...Hierachy is real. I will take the "queen" position if need be!Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-1914101364442015422013-10-01T09:08:03.933-07:002013-10-01T09:08:03.933-07:00When small children play up at mealtimes, I can ov...When small children play up at mealtimes, I can overlook it. Not with adults!Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-55845085342035952942013-10-01T09:06:25.161-07:002013-10-01T09:06:25.161-07:00Of course it is easier with strangers. They matte...Of course it is easier with strangers. They matter less. They don't push our buttons. The more important the relationship, the greater the chance we get upset. I am with you on the importance of meal times, though precisely that attitude can backfire. Back in the long-ago log cabin days my husband worked an evening shift and the only shared mealtimes were on the weekend. My husband knew hunger as a child in war. Mealtimes are important. Our sensitive, slightly Aspie toddler would pick those fraught meal times to be etra picky and spoil the occasion. Lower expectations all around would have made things easier. Just saying.<br />Ien in the Kootenayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-35010889898017173452013-10-01T08:49:37.403-07:002013-10-01T08:49:37.403-07:00Inclusion means that for as much as we strive for ...Inclusion means that for as much as we strive for equality, there is also a hierarchy of respect that exists. Going by age often works well; however there are times when even age does not provide quite the level of wisdom needed to adjust those offensive attitudes you mention. Oh, those energies are out there. I do not have to let them continue 'in here.' Boundaries may not have to be drawn like so many lines in the sand, but know that in addition to agreeing to disagree there are times when rank is pulled. If someone does not have the wherewithal to balance themselves, the respect moves from 'mutual' to 'instructive.' Get over it. ;) ~ Blessings! :)Kathy Custrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687890338800680972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-63088862261160508532013-10-01T08:27:15.833-07:002013-10-01T08:27:15.833-07:00Yes. I can tolerate all sorts of quirks, but I hav...Yes. I can tolerate all sorts of quirks, but I have zero patience for that level of stubborn selfishness that I tend to associate with a two-year-old. Life is too short for pigheadedness.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-70334735978095475982013-10-01T08:24:07.048-07:002013-10-01T08:24:07.048-07:00There is always one who insists on having their wa...There is always one who insists on having their way or the highway. Discussions like that send me to the kitchen to hide.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18119718461267453386noreply@blogger.com