tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post753015646558939011..comments2023-04-06T02:30:06.988-07:00Comments on Torrent of Consciousness: Modern RitualMelanie Boxallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-10233837721197770952014-03-15T14:55:49.464-07:002014-03-15T14:55:49.464-07:00Ambivert. Brilliant term. Melanie, I admire your i...Ambivert. Brilliant term. Melanie, I admire your intellect, wisdom, energy and attitude. Always have. However, I honestly don't think you are quite as exceptional as you claim. So, you don't fit onto the box? Guess what, many of us don't. The world is full of us. And yes, with this nifty internet we get to meet each other, which is great. As a Dutch person it took me YEARS to return the traditional greeting with "Fine, and you?". And I have been guilty of the brain dump all about me that you describe so hilariously. The last especially when I had been too deprived of social life for a while. As for the hugs.....in our hippie circles I thoroughly enjoyed the full body hug which was common. It did not go with kissing. Then I went to the old country for a family visit after not being there for 6 years. To my surprise they stiffened right up when I enthousiastically hurled myself against their breast. Instead the approved greeting was body at armth length, or at least not touching, and three kisses either on the cheek or in the air, alternating sides. I kept withdrawing too soon. <br /><br />Ien in the Kootenayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01766317652520657570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-6036141584498114252014-03-14T08:18:58.662-07:002014-03-14T08:18:58.662-07:00I like "Hi" and a BIG smile :)I like "Hi" and a BIG smile :)Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-65971586132771828812014-03-14T08:18:05.238-07:002014-03-14T08:18:05.238-07:00I love manners. I love people being polite. I see ...I love manners. I love people being polite. I see so much impoliteness and I hate it. I like receiving hugs. I love hearing about people's days too; I sincerely do. <br /><br />However, I get your point too. My daughter would DEFINITELY agree with this post, but she is more introverted than I am.<br /><br />Perhaps a better greeting would be a simple, friendly "hi."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18119718461267453386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-89766128784333189152014-03-14T07:40:01.690-07:002014-03-14T07:40:01.690-07:00Well, yes, the whole point of this blog is to uncl...Well, yes, the whole point of this blog is to unclog my brain, let it all flow out. Which is why it tends to read like that, LOL Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-63449128206412749402014-03-14T07:38:42.200-07:002014-03-14T07:38:42.200-07:00Well, your blog is called, "Torrent of Consci...Well, your blog is called, "Torrent of Consciousness," is it not? Guess when we open the floodgates with a rote, ritualistic greeting, all sorts of stuff will come tumbling out. ;) LOL<br /><br />I like your organic, mindful method of exchange much better. Keeps people on their toes. ~ Blessings! :) (and yes, I meant that....) :DKathy Custrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687890338800680972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-88075403923697777862014-03-14T07:01:50.057-07:002014-03-14T07:01:50.057-07:00I would be OK with hugging or kissing my keyboard,...I would be OK with hugging or kissing my keyboard, I love it and it loves me. But right now I have a cat purring on my lap so it serves the same purpose.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-67640685455228209722014-03-14T07:00:37.386-07:002014-03-14T07:00:37.386-07:00My keyboard never wants to hug or kiss me. I like...My keyboard never wants to hug or kiss me. I like my keyboard ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06593029803637441088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-39136564184935727572014-03-14T06:50:28.270-07:002014-03-14T06:50:28.270-07:00Ah well, that's exactly it you see. This is wh...Ah well, that's exactly it you see. This is what I'm on about. Being forced to do things we don't want. I won't hug people I don't like, and I reject the kissy kissy a lot too (it's huge in Toronto now, but I knew it from England so can deal with it when it crops up). As you say, I escaped. <br />Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-33201480458198104582014-03-14T06:47:23.644-07:002014-03-14T06:47:23.644-07:00I hate hugs. I hate the double cheek kiss that is...I hate hugs. I hate the double cheek kiss that is mandatory in Quebec, but, what do you do? The only hugs I like are from family and close friends. <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06593029803637441088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-24717067735112266092014-03-14T06:42:29.279-07:002014-03-14T06:42:29.279-07:00I know :) Those of us who are quite mad and a crow...I know :) Those of us who are quite mad and a crowd of our own are trying to create a new reality for everyone :) It can happen. I believe it was ambiverts who made hugs more popular than handshakes.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-58330175520700919842014-03-14T06:36:15.646-07:002014-03-14T06:36:15.646-07:00(This may appear twice - my connection hiccuped.) ...(This may appear twice - my connection hiccuped.) A few comments on this one; the greetings are simple considered polite and I sincerely doubt that anyone, with a pulse, takes it seriously. It is simply a "social convention". Like you I fall into the ambivert category whoever, unlike you, I am forced into social interaction 8 hours a day, every day. To get along in society, in my case, the workplace, the ambivert learns discipline. It is a survival skill, otherwise ambiverts would be out of a job in no time. Doing what you do, where you do it, this self-discipline is not necessary. There are a lot things required in urban and suburban areas that are not required in the rural. I would love to live rural but let's face it, can you see me trying to grow something with any reasonable expectation of success? So I do what I have to do to survive. I don't like it but I understand what is expected outside my front door. There are multiple social conventions that strike me as absurd and pointless but I understand I need to perform/wear/commit to them with my mouth shut. I believe it would surprise you to know how many ambiverts are out there, many are like me, doing what is necessary in order to pay the bills and buy the groceries. The difference between them and you is that these folks have no choice but learn self-discipline and to pay attention to social conventions in order to master them. It is a struggle. I don't believe this to be a rare identifier. The astounding growth of the internet is one of the indicators of just how prevalent ambiverts are, globally. Sure, there are those who use it to be "social" but there are far more who use it to create their own reality, far from the madding crowd. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com