tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post8346882133010059132..comments2023-04-06T02:30:06.988-07:00Comments on Torrent of Consciousness: Talk To Me - 2 - DramaMelanie Boxallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-501090582619463422013-05-01T10:59:42.640-07:002013-05-01T10:59:42.640-07:00Another word that springs to mind there is busybod...Another word that springs to mind there is busybody. There are other words too but they are not things I say about other people's relatives. Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-46041271683108775902013-05-01T09:30:48.648-07:002013-05-01T09:30:48.648-07:00I feel I should say (in defense of the crazy femal...I feel I should say (in defense of the crazy females in my family) that since most of the placid and logical family members are male, the females think I act too much like a male because I have a placid and logical personality. Sometimes they goad me and ridicule me in a misguided attempt to feminize me. The fact that I mow my own lawn and like to use tools bothers them a lot. My mom tries to shame Ron for not mowing my lawn. He hates mowing and I enjoy it, so I do it. He and I are happy the way we are.Zusiquhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852468700318495738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-74625581466783635062013-05-01T09:29:22.337-07:002013-05-01T09:29:22.337-07:00"Crazy making" is well recognized by the..."Crazy making" is well recognized by therapists. They call it Schizophrenic-genic.Scheherazadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05582502130446093690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-11487015999689362862013-05-01T08:59:08.000-07:002013-05-01T08:59:08.000-07:00Oh, and if the definition of 'normal' is &...Oh, and if the definition of 'normal' is 'most like the majority of people to whom one is being compared", I am not even a little bit normal.Zusiquhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852468700318495738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-67750835688495975592013-05-01T08:57:42.078-07:002013-05-01T08:57:42.078-07:00I didn't fight it. There are a few family mem...I didn't fight it. There are a few family members with whom I share temperament (but the others are/were male.) I'm just naturally placid (unless repeatedly provoked.) Since I am the only female like this, the other females constantly try to get an emotional reaction out of me. When they do get it, they accuse me of over-reacting. Living two thousand miles away from them has brought me much (but not complete) peace.Zusiquhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852468700318495738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-11805288760095989792013-05-01T08:26:14.936-07:002013-05-01T08:26:14.936-07:00Yeah, they sound it. How did you fight that and tu...Yeah, they sound it. How did you fight that and turn out normal? This always fascinates me, those who, against all odds, break the dysfunction chain.Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-22563794099442305742013-05-01T07:22:26.062-07:002013-05-01T07:22:26.062-07:00When this rare reaction from me happens, they alwa...When this rare reaction from me happens, they always tell me I am being a drama queen. On a day to day basis, I am about as drama free as a woman can manage to be.<br /><br />Yesterday, I was taken to task by my mother because I don't want contact with my ex-husband. She keeps asking me questions about him and I keep answering that I don't know, don't want to know and if it is important to her that she should ask him directly. She then complains I am being hateful and angry. Some days, my family is crazy making...Zusiquhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852468700318495738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-32399861711655262082013-05-01T07:19:00.574-07:002013-05-01T07:19:00.574-07:00To be perfectly honest, I'm not sure that coun...To be perfectly honest, I'm not sure that counts as drama. Anger is sometimes "justified", OK, we know we still shouldn't do it, but everyone has their limits. The critical aspect of being a drama queen is that the emotional behaviour is out of all proportion to the perceived offence. I think you just get pushed too far, there's a difference. Melanie Boxallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07123851168700589156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7196829553153577775.post-72713489190526049502013-05-01T07:11:51.034-07:002013-05-01T07:11:51.034-07:00I identify with this: "Calling them a drama q...I identify with this: "Calling them a drama queen, or telling them to calm down, may or may not have the effect of nipping it in the bud. It could make things worse, so careful judgement is required. A person who is genuinely upset could feel their feelings are being dismissed."<br /><br />I am generally a calm and rational person. My family is kinda nuts and I have always been the odd woman out because of my calmness and tendency towards being rational. That being said, they regularly ignore or dismiss anything I have to say that doesn't fit in with what they want to hear. For example: When my daughter was a child, my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. My mother allowed him to continue to drive. I told her that she needed to take his keys because he was a dangerous driver. She said she wouldn't disrespect him like that and believed that if she told him to turn left or right, that he would be a safe driver. I asked her what happened when he forgets the meaning of the words 'left' and 'right'. I then made a rule that my daughter was to NEVER ride in a car if he was driving. They complained about that for years. I stuck to it. She took his keys away the day he nearly killed them because he forgot how to apply the brakes, by the way.<br /><br />On a rare occasion, I get so tired of them dismissing my desire to choose the circumstances of my own life that I become a 'drama queen.' It takes a LOT to get me to that point, but once I get there I can't seem to calm myself down and I have felt inclined towards violence on the rare occasion that happens. I have not behaved violently, but I feel it inside me and I know I am capable of it. I am not proud of that. And THAT, without going into the specifics, is why I have been estranged from my sister since 1994.Zusiquhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10852468700318495738noreply@blogger.com