So, getting down to the nitty gritty.........................
All my kids are now over 19, and my grandchildren don't yet read my stuff.
I was 13 when I "lost" my virginity. And I thoroughly enjoyed it.
I didn't lose it down a drain or anything. What a STUPID word.
His name was Lothar, he was German, and we were in a student exchange thing. I was on the pill and I really didn't care.
It was the 70s. It was Europe.
At the time, it felt right. I wasn't coerced. He was fucking gorgeous. I was very, very ready.
And do you know what he said afterwards?
"Didn't that hurt?"
"You are not a virgin."
I have no idea why I had no hymen. MAYBE I WAS BORN THAT WAY.
Maybe, being a tomboy, I had done enough rough outdoorsy stuff that I broke it on a stile (q.v.) or climbing a tree, or something. I don't know. I don't care.
All I know is that "my first time" it was all pleasure, and no pain.
I also knew girls who did just about everything EXCEPT "real" sex. They had sucked lots of penises, oh yes. Some had taken it up the rear. But they were still VIRGINS, you see.
What a load of bollocks.
Some of these girls were "virgins" on their wedding nights, and along with those who had zero experience they suffered pain. Right. Great way to end that day.
Then....some of them discovered the man they married was f**king hopeless at sex. Some of them are still with that man. Some of them have still not had good sex.
I tested my husband out. Are you ready for THIS?
First night we dated. In my living room. As my mother slept above. And I thought, yeah, I can spend the rest of my life with this one. Right then and there.
We married 11 months later. My advice to women? TESTDRIVE, girls.
I apologize in advance if this post offends. I'm just trying to be honest.
I accept there are other experiences. This is mine.